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On saying “yes”

One of the consistent realms of people’s disbelief about my life is the number of things that I do. This is because I say “yes” far more often than “no.” I think that this is where one of the major hinge points for 改善 and creating healthy dynamic balance exists, for “no” being a default or even equitable answer to “yes” expresses a fundamental unwillingness to help. If indeed it is one’s actions and not their thoughts that define us, then the doing of things vastly outweighs listlessness. I personally have suffered most when I am unoccupied with something to do. To sit and do nothing is a great way to invite all manner of psychological trauma upon yourself. By saying “yes” consistently, not only do I have a sense of accomplishment, but I also gain reprieve from the demons that haunt my idling mind. It takes a lot of energy, and sometimes you are exhausted at the end of the day; however, that makes adequate sleep easily obtained. There are times I have literally had to run between activities or been late as I have been triple booked, but there is no sense of failure when you do not achieve what is practically impossible and a great sense of accomplishment when you do. People are rarely upset with you because you have chosen to help them, nor are they often angered when you show that you want to spend time with them. I have felt the worst when I am unable to say “yes” for fear that my presence would be worse than my absence. It is saying “no” that has left me at my most guilty and self-recriminating. Instead, I think that saying “yes” is of the utmost importance. There are things that I avoid or am unable to do, but it has almost never been because of saying “no” to at least trying something out. The things that I am most insecure about having made the wrong decision on are those few exceptions. Thus, to be a yes-man is to give all the world and its potentials a chance. It is to say that you welcome those around you and will do whatever you can for them. It is to keep oneself healthy and sane.